My Freak Identity
As a transman, and the one who’s identified as male for as long as I’ve been conscious, I’ve always felt like an outsider. The different one. After puberty, one thing…
BDSM, Third Man Syndrome, and the Brain in Altered States
If you’ve been around intense BDSM scenes long enough, you’ve probably heard someone describe “subspace,” “floating,” or “being held by something larger.” If you’ve worked with edge-pushing players, you may…
Supporting Sign Language & Nonverbal Communication in Kink Spaces
Short Guide for DMs & Event Organisers: 1. Make Your Space Welcoming • Good Lighting: Ensure play areas, social zones, and exits have enough light for lip-reading and hand signals,…
Nagaika Whips
The Nagaika is a short whip deeply tied to Cossack life and practice. Built for practical use on horseback and in daily discipline, it served as both a working tool…
Cigar Play Negotiation
Cigar play brings together service, sensation, control, and ritual in ways that can be deeply personal and powerful. It carries physical risks, emotional risks, and responsibilities for everyone involved. Good…
Approval-Based Topping
In approval-based topping / domination, the top begins by marking desired behaviour with clear, consistent praise rather than threat. I encourage you to learn how a single whispered “Good” can…
On Pain
Pain isn't just something humans feel. It's something you use when nothing else says it right. It marks thresholds. It carves truth into the skin. A body in pain doesn't lie.
Sadism as Structure: My Perspective
Ethical topping isn't just about permission, it's about discernment. Consent gets talked about a lot in kink spaces.
The Weight of the Ask
Ethical topping isn't just about permission, it's about discernment. Consent gets talked about a lot in kink spaces.